Help With Stress – A Surefire Way to Quickly Relieve Stress
There are many symptoms that sufferers experience when they are dealing with stress, too many to go into detail here. Continually going over past experiences is one symptom that many sufferers share. Here in this article, I’m going to share a brand new technique of mine to bring-in some help with stress that is also useful for relieving anxiety and depression too.
Continually brooding over the past is a very harmful behaviour to perform. Sufferers will selectively recall only those occasions where things didn’t work out, went wrong, or where they made a mistake. It is imperative that you recognize how this damaging habit just creates a lose-lose outcome for sufferers.
When you’re feeling stressed, anxious, or depressed, the desire to replay past experiences and adopting an “if only” perspective can be compelling. The first sign of this behavior involves you castigating yourself over something that you did, which you’ll now believe firmly you should not have done, e.g.:
“What a bad idea it was to quit my old job. I’d have been better off back there, leaving was a huge mistake, I’m such an idiot.”
But you’ll also blame yourself for things you didn’t do that you believe you should have done, like this:
“If only I’d taken the opportunity to purchase that lovely home last year. I was so stupid to turn it down and I’m certain all of us would’ve been much more happy there.”
Can you now recognize what is going on here and that the only outcome is emotional turmoil?
It’s a lose-lose situation because in selectively replaying bad events from the past, you damn yourself if you do and you damn yourself if you don’t.
Amazingly, a lot of sufferers are able to rake over past misfortunes from way back in their lives, even going back fifteen, twenty or thirty odd years to castigate themselves for actions they did or did not perform.
Just a few weeks ago, I realized that I was raking over a number of bad experiences that happened to me about a decade ago and I created a new technique to address it that I’m sure will be of great help with stress and stressful illnesses.
At the point of realizing how I was repeatedly replaying past circumstances and that it was making me really sad, I turned to look at my face in the mirror and firmly stated:
“This cannot continue. What occurred back then is spilt milk, gone once and for all and I won’t let it hurt me again from this moment on.”
That’s a powerful statement to make as well as being completely true, but what I said next is the most important part:
“What a total bore-fest this is. I am tired of this nonsense, it has gone on long enough and it isn’t going to bore me to tears anymore. It’s now time to move on to a brand new exciting chapter.”
Should I ever feel compelled to go over situations from the past, situations that are only happening within my own mind, I now dismiss it with the contempt it deserves:
“No not that boring old rubbish. I have no time for it, it holds nothing of interest whatsoever and I’m now doing far more enjoyable things.”
This technique has been really good at preventing me from raking over past situations and I hope you put it to the test because I’m certain it will help with stress, anxiety and depression.